Written by: JoAnn Castle
Elle/elle is the French pronoun for 'she and her'. It can also be used as a noun. Pronunciation of elle is /el-la/.
The birth of Elle.
ELLE - RAW & UNAPOLOGETIC follows a woman in her golden years who realizes she’s been living most of her adult life with a facade - built on silence, survival, and sweeping the truth under the rug. When the emotional floor finally collapses, she’s forced to confront the wreckage she’s avoided for decades.
Finally accepting the heartbreaks, betrayals, identity loss, mental and emotional breakdowns, along with the quiet suffocation of disappearing inside her own self, she takes a chance, finding her way to clarity, expressing herself through her no longer quiet, external voice.
Through a mix of dark humor, unfiltered honesty, and the daily nonsensical "goings=on", Elle digs into moments that cracked her wide open, allowing her to embrace the simplicity of a good pancake rather than a continuous walk on eggshells, barefoot, as she did for so many years.
She navigates reinvention not as a triumphant makeover, but as a messy, necessary reclamation. Along the way, she discovers that telling the truth, even the ridiculous, self‑deprecating parts, is the only way to stop burying herself alive - a theme she explores in the chapter titled,
“Buried Alive With Nothing But A Bendy Straw.”
Combining rough reality, fact-based fiction, witty storytelling, and daily chaos, this fictionalized memoir traces her journey from collapse to clarity, from silence to voice, and from putting everyone else first to deciding to find who she once was and ultimately making herself a priority. It doesn't end with a squeaky-clean resolution of “forgive and forget” for others, but for herself. She becomes a woman standing firmly in her own story for the first time - raw, unapologetic, and now - finally unburied.
"Beyond the shattered glass, I'll forever keep you up on my wall in a box of nostalgia. For memories are only forgotten if we choose not to remember." —JoAnn Castle '26
"I cannot fix on the hour, or the spot, or the look or the words, which laid the foundation. It is too long ago. I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun." —Jane Austen (Pride & Prejudice)
"Half the world is composed of people who have something to say and can't and the other half who have nothing to say and keep saying it." —Robert Frost
A Little More On Elle:
Elle spent decades saying one thing while secretly meaning another, all to avoid confrontation, turning a blind eye, so to speak, sometimes throwing out words from her personal WTF-tionary. Words collected over the years, just waiting to be used at the right moment. She is the Captain of Subtext, navigating the seas of double meaning. Her secret power is tossing out words that sound straightforward but carry a wink from the not-so-blind eye, leaving another wondering.
Dive into memories, and you’ll find bits of a screwy life baked right in—embracing hidden twists and turns, naivety, fights for an illness diagnosis, moments of judgment and misunderstanding, some humbling, uncomfortable, humorous, chaotic times while raising an eyebrow from time to time (figuratively speaking, since she literally cannot do that—she's tried for years). Elle still finds herself throughout it all, learning from each moment. Feeling empowered by these amusing yet disturbing phenomena, you'll witness firsthand thoughts that are all over the place, just like her brain works. Reality at its finest, or so she's been told.
As the author of Elle - Raw and Unapologetic, I'm not looking to be the "next best thing"; I want to share her relatable, achievable, accountable, and somewhat explainable story. I hope that you enjoy the read.
Think pizza: with thin crust, the pepperoni is on display. With deep dish, you’ve got to dig through sauce and cheese to uncover the truth—or the pepperoni, in this case.
So, yeah, that's Elle! Definitely deep dish—messy, layered, and “worth a fork” (and I know you know what I mean). Either way, Elle serves it up hot, with a few winks, a side of sarcasm, a stack of pancakes, and bacon from my favorite DoorDash diner to round off her messy meal, A.K.A. LIFE!

There's A Little "Elle" In All Of Us
After accepting when chaos strikes in life, whether it's losing your car in the parking lot or your keys in the house (let's not mention losing your kid in the mall), we are given a choice to either sink into despair or don our metaphorical clown noses & find a silly side amidst all the havoc.
After all, life should be all about cookies: calories ignored, crumbs celebrated. As long as there are enough to share, it can be sweet. If you find your cookie jar empty, that would be "BITTER" sweet. You would need to phone a friend—stat! Ultimately, everyone deserves a half-full cookie jar at the very minimum.
The truth is, life doesn’t always hand you the world’s greatest cup of warm coffee to go with that cookie, though. Sometimes it serves the world’s worst—burnt diner coffee, lukewarm in a chipped mug, by some guy named Vinny. But it’s what you toss in that flips the script. Sugar, cream, or a laugh, even a good cry—so stir it up! And don’t confuse that with "stirring the pot." That's another whole book in itself!

POV FROM BRIELLA
1/20/26
1.22.26
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"I'M DONE HIDING NOW I'M SHINING LIKE I'M BORN TO BE! WE DREAMIN' HARD! WE CAME SO FAR, NOW I BELIEVE...WE'RE GOING UP, UP, UP! IT'S OUR MOMENT! YOU KNOW TOGETHER, WE'RE GONNA BE GLOWIN'. GONNA BE, GONNA BE GOLDEN!
OH,-OH,-OH, UP, UP, UP WITH OUR VOICES!
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GONNA BE, GONNA BE GOLDEN..."
-Dedicated to my children and to all who have stood by me for better, for worse...